Teamwork or Toxicwork

Marriage can be a good litmus test to find out if there’s a disconnect in our theology.  When our claim to God is all about the grace we’ve received from Jesus the Saviour, to the exclusion of the grace we give to one another through Christ the Lord, we’ll be unbalanced.

Biting and devouring in conflict, disagreements and disharmony, separation from each other and failure to give grace to our brothers in Christ: these are evidences of an unbalanced Christianity.  When my focus is only on what I’ve received from God instead of how I can live for Him, there’s a disconnect between how I talk and how I walk.

Children first crawl so they can walk and they first babble so they can talk.  We first receive grace so that we can mature and give it away in obedience.  The longer we live in the “Saviour” mentality – tightfistedly hanging onto grace – the more selfish we are … the more unbalanced we’ll seem, like a 18 year old that acts like a 12 year old.

When my faith has embraced Jesus Christ as both my Saviour and the LORD of my life, inevitably it will transpire into my marriage.





Only Focus on The Good


When the demands of a God-centered marriage contrast against the world’s view, our vision towards marriage in general, can become jaded.  When this happens it gets really hard to see marriage as a gift, much less be thankful for it.  The world calls our flesh to do what’s best for itself, to think of self first and to have its own way.

There is a temptation to want it now and to think we know what’s best instead of waiting for God’s plan to unfold. Remember, He said His ways are higher than ours and Jesus said His peace is different than the peace of the world.   Don’t look at a God-centered marriage with lenses that have been fitted to the world’s view.

When you find yourself in an emotional tight spot, sin crouching at the door of your temptation, resist the lure to think negative low thoughts about your husband.  Instead through gratitude and praise, elevate your mind to the higher things.

In their letter to the Philippians, Paul and Timothy tell them, and us, that we’ll do best by filling our minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious — the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.

Be empowered by grace as you head into your weekend!





Witness a Miracle

Source: via Molly on Pinterest

Source: via Molly on Pinterest


Caterpillars become butterflies and tadpoles become frogs.  With the convenience of Youtube, we can see the entire process happen in under 5 minutes, but in real life time the conversion is much slower.

Even slower than butterflies and bullfrogs is the transformation of people. It takes a whole lifetime to remake the heart of a person who has been born sinful and selfish, and to bring them to the heights of righteousness in the likeness of Jesus. (Romans 8:29)

So often, we are inconvenienced by the length of time it takes for God to heal and grow His sons, and by the pain it causes us.  Instead of being patient as God works through the layers of mess and damage done to our husbands’ hearts by the enemy, we are selfish and want God to speed through the process so that it won’t affect us too deeply.

It is easier to view the trials in marriage through the lenses of an invitation.  Long before you were ready, God in His grace invited you to witness the various cycles that are involved in reshaping a special person, one of His own sons.  When you said, “I do,” you accepted the opportunity to witness the greatest miracle you’ll ever be a part of:

The transformation of your husband.

The best part is that within each trial are opportunities for you to give to your husband the very grace God showed to you.  How can we not want to do what Jesus asked and follow in the footprints that He left with us?  I give you a new commandment: that you should love one another. Just as I have loved you, so you too should love one another. John 13:34