When people hear that Darrell and I have been married for almost 30 years, sometimes I get the question, “What is it that you do to make it work?” I respond, Anything it takes.
The biggest reason for the breakdown of marriages, I think, is that people can’t get over the mental hurdle that their marriage is not about them. It doesn’t belong to them; it wasn’t invented by them, nor is it for them. The marriage is about God. Once I accepted that my marriage belongs to Him, I started to look at it differently — and treat it differently.
[Marriage] is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. ~Paul to the Ephesians
It doesn’t matter what either of us want, need, think, or feel, it’s essential the rings win: The MARRIAGE must always come FIRST.