The sad thing about this to me, is that there’s no need for it to have to take a quarter of a century to get to that point 🙂 It’s so much more fun and romantic in marriage to understand desiring to please each other as early on as they can “get it.” But that’s just my opinion 🙂
Some people are less damaged, so it takes them less time. But there are lots of people that are more deeply wounded, this makes their healing take more time. These are the sisters that are walking through the worse in marriage before they get to the better. And many times it does take a quarter of a century to get there. There are fun and romantic times for sure in marriage, but the understanding of self takes maturity, and maturity takes time. It happens slowly, just like physical growth.
I understand what you mean. The world would be a much happier and better place if we all just did what was right and best for everyone. Unfortunately, we don’t live in that world, Satan owns our fallen world and we are all born with a deep propensity for sin and seeking self. Jeremiah tells us that human hearts are, “hopelessly dark and deceitful,” Jesus echoes this sentiment when He said, “we are untrustworthy.” Plus, He gives us a heads-up about the struggles in marriage.
But some marriages don’t have these struggles. Your husband is blessed to have a wife that “gets it” and desires to please him!
I agree, I meant more that it would be great if couples knew more information about avoiding certain behavior patterns or falling into ruts etc. before marriage, if they learned examples of what it looks like to control or disrespect your husband, it would be so differently possibly for them!
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