Neglect always leads to drifting.
There is no area of life where neglect is beneficial. Life – people – relationship: all require work. We were not built for static. Attending to – caring for – doing: We were built for activity.
- Neglect to work out; your heart and muscles drift into weakness and atrophy
- Neglect to eat right and your body drifts into poor health
- Neglect your work you get passed over for promotions
- Neglect to pay your mobile fee and your phone becomes useless
- Neglect to manage your emotions and your filters weaken
- Neglect to keep your mind sharp and cognitive ability becomes dull
Neglect = Drift = Dullness
Since all this is true, we ought to pay much closer attention than ever to the truths that we have heard, lest in any way we drift past [them] and slip away. –Heb 2:1
For this nation’s heart has grown gross (fat and dull), and their ears heavy and difficult of hearing, and their eyes they have tightly closed, lest they see and perceive with their eyes, and hear and comprehend the sense with their ears, and grasp and understand with their heart, and turn and I should heal them. -Matt 13:15
Fat & Dull = Lazy listeners ‘ask for it’
We all have areas in which we have become lazy listeners that make us neglectful: In what ways are you neglecting your marriage?
A phrase you hear repeatedly from your spouse can indicate an area of dullness. You can listen to God through your spouse or you can let regression continue. But God always corrects one way or another. Just like you as a parent wouldn’t allow one sibling to constantly take advantage the other; He won’t allow His chosen to become a family of spoiled brats that hurt each other through the inaction of neglect.
You either act through listening and hearing or God will give you the help you are begging for. (Heb 10:31)
BEWARE OF THE BAIT
Resist the temptation to ask, “In what ways is my spouse neglecting our marriage.” God doesn’t ask us to account for each other. I won’t be held accountable for the actions and behaviours of my husband; only my own as a wife. (2 Cor 5:10)
Neglect is a tool of Satan’s that is intentionally deceptive so it can be quietly destructive. Drifting is just a slower path than directly sinking; the destination is the same: divorce – death of the marriage. In order to keep your marriage afloat and on course it must be driven, steered, worked and attended to.