Caterpillars become butterflies and tadpoles become frogs. With the convenience of Youtube, we can see the entire process happen in under 5 minutes, but in real life time the conversion is much slower.
Even slower than butterflies and bullfrogs is the transformation of people. It takes a whole lifetime to remake the heart of a person who has been born sinful and selfish, and to bring them to the heights of righteousness in the likeness of Jesus. (Romans 8:29)
So often, we are inconvenienced by the length of time it takes for God to heal and grow His sons, and by the pain it causes us. Instead of being patient as God works through the layers of mess and damage done to our husbands’ hearts by the enemy, we are selfish and want God to speed through the process so that it won’t affect us too deeply.
It is easier to view the trials in marriage through the lenses of an invitation. Long before you were ready, God in His grace invited you to witness the various cycles that are involved in reshaping a special person, one of His own sons. When you said, “I do,” you accepted the opportunity to witness the greatest miracle you’ll ever be a part of:
The transformation of your husband.
The best part is that within each trial are opportunities for you to give to your husband the very grace God showed to you. How can we not want to do what Jesus asked and follow in the footprints that He left with us? I give you a new commandment: that you should love one another. Just as I have loved you, so you too should love one another. John 13:34