Part 1 began with walking in faith instead of what you see happening in your marriage. Ezekiel’s example of believing the impossible instead of trying to figure it out allowed him to co-operate with God as He raised dry bones to life.
(Continuing with Part 2)
DON’T give yourself an emotional lobotomy by pretending there are no problems in your marriage. God didn’t ask Ezekiel to pretend that the bones weren’t dead. In fact, He drew his attention to them:
God grabbed me. God’s Spirit took me up and set me down in the middle of an open plain strewn with bones. He led me around among them — a lot of bones all over the plain — dry bones, bleached by the sun. -Ezekiel 37:1-2 emphasis added
God allowed Ezekiel to see both of the options in front of him. Would he trust what he saw in the natural? Or would he choose faith and trust in Who God is? It seems like God was asking Ezekiel to examine what his faith was rooted in – himself or God:
He said to me, “Son of man, can these bones live?” -Ezekiel 37:3 emphasis added
Through Ezekiel’s response it’s easy to see that he didn’t trust himself:
I said, “Master God, only you know that.” -Ezekiel 37:3 emphasis added
The problems in our marriages aren’t supposed to be the focus, because we can’t change or fix them – God should be our focus because only he can fix the problems. God gives us the power to choose what we will focus on so the problems (of others) don’t consume us. If you believe your husband has a problem with abc – do you not think that God also has a problem with abc*? Telling people about abc doesn’t encourage God to heal or restore. Complaining about the same problem only gives it more power over us by concentrating our focus on one area and closing us to the rest of the person.
DO set your husband free to be the man God has called him to be. This is the true gift we give each other. The freedom we’ve received is the freedom we are to give. The choice is found in our free will to grow and learn – in all our humanness – as we become shaped into the destiny God wants.
DO accept God’s invitation to co-operate as He heals your marriage.
Work Towards a Positive Blaze
1) Watch your focus. Resist the temptation to concentrate on your husband’s faults. Pray for ‘the way of escape from temptation’. A clearer vision of my own faults and the problems I caused was more often than not that way of escape. It takes two to tango. Even if my responsibility is only 2%, I have to focus one hundred percent on that 2% – not my husband’s 98%.
Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye but do not notice or consider the beam [of timer] that is in your own eye? –Luke 6:41
2) Watch your words. The focus of the mind leads your thoughts, thoughts lead your words, and actions are the manifestation. Where the mind goes, the body will follow. (Proverbs 23:7) God has given my words the enormous power to affect my life and those around me. The choice is mine: Construction (Ephesians 4:29) or destruction (Colossians 3:8).
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they who indulge in it shall eat the fruit of it [for death or life]. (Proverbs 18:21 emphasis added)
3) Express your expectations to God. Expectations are not demands. Demands center around what I think is best. Expectations center around what God knows is best. Expecting God to act will remove all limits!
And now, Lord, what do I wait for and expect? My hope and expectation are in You. -Psalm 39:7
I called a healing marriage into reality through confidence in God. God didn’t begin healing in our marriage because of my words. Neither did He raise those people from the dead because of Ezekiel’s words. Only when I spoke what He told me to speak – as Ezekiel spoke what he was told to speak – did God work in our marriage.
Speak positive sparks about your husband
and watch God build the blaze.
* This presupposes that abc is actually a sin against God and not just something you don’t agree with, like, or have a different opinion about.