We can look at our neighbour’s lovely flower garden and see it as such effortless beauty. All the different varieties that blend perfectly together: Pinks, oranges, blues and purples and the dark earth poking through intermittently; completely free of weeds, of course. Then turn our gaze towards our pathetic attempt. It’s already the end of July and you can count the number of times on one hand you’ve been down on all fours – tending to what needs tending.
It’s the same with developing a healthy lifestyle. When I see a woman that has athletically shaped her body and wishing I had that shapely body. Wanting to lose some extra weight and doing nothing that resembles eating healthy but instead, gingerly snacking as I watch a movie instead of doing the work of stocking the pantry with the proper goods to do the job and heading out to the gym – tending to what needs tending.
We want what we want – and we want it without the work, without the care and effort. We want a better marriage to happen without the mess of conflict. We want it easy so that we don’t have to deal with the reality of our own reactions towards our spouse when they sin against us. We want it simple so we don’t have to go deeper and expose the flaws and weaknesses in ourselves.
We don’t want to prepare the earth, plant the seeds, and then continue in weeding and watering. We are lazy and selfish.
We don’t want set aside the time it takes to actually build muscle to take care of that fat. And we certainly don’t want to restrict our dietary intake – to put any limits on ourselves. We are spoilt and selfish.
We make it about us and want it our way — the way that is most painless and convenient and quick. We want our spouse to BE the image of Christ already formed – now. Rather than deliver grace through the process of forgiveness as they become Christ like.
A couple that has been married for over 40 years, to us, is lucky, rather than possibly acknowledge that maybe – just maybe – it wasn’t luck … but rather: Hard selfless work and diligence – tending to what needs tending.