Mother and son/daughter
Father and daughter/son
brother and sister
brother/brother and sister/sister
deep intimate friendships
There are many different types and levels of relationships, all of which are characterized by mutual levels of acceptance, equality and reciprocity. Some of them even have the potential to fulfill us throughout our whole lives.
But there is one relationship that has all of these qualities and more. It’s the one that is separated out from all the others. That’s the one of husband and wife. In none of the other relationships do we attend a public ceremony to make a declaration and have a celebration to usher in its beginning. And in no other associations are we called to become a fused unit of one.
Marriage stands alone in this.
In all of these relationships, only one is characterized to resemble Christ and His Church. This explains why marriage, if you are a disciple of Jesus, might appear, politically incorrect. Marriage is the only inter-personal relationship in which there is outlined a functioning symbiosis that is to mirror the authority and subjection of Christ and His Church … not the world.
This is a huge mystery, and I don’t pretend to understand it all.
What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church.
And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife,
loving himself in loving her,
and how each wife is to honour her husband.
If marriage is truly emulating Christ and His church, how can it look any other way than, politically incorrect?
This isn’t about submission; you know, obey, defer, surrender … blah, blah, blah. I just find it very curious, that no other relationship has been given this burden.
Marriage calls us to an entirely new and selfless life,
and any situation that calls me to confront my selfishness has enormous spiritual value.
~ Gary Thomas ~