What outlook do you have on your husband, where is your point of reference for him?
Do you see him as a:
Is he ‘floated’ from box to box by your emotions, depending on his behaviour?
God has an answer for each of these box placements,
interestingly He never mentions emotions or behaviours
But I tell you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.
For God did not send the Son into the world in order to judge
(to reject, to condemn, to pass sentence on) the world,
but that the world might find salvation and be made safe and sound through Him.
Live in harmony with one another;
do not be haughty (snobbish, high-minded, exclusive),
but readily adjust yourself to [people, things] and give yourselves to humble tasks.
Never overestimate yourself or be wise in your own conceits.
For the whole Law [concerning human relationships]
is complied with in the one precept,
You shall love your neighbor as [you do] yourself.
1 John 3:16
By this we come to know
(progressively to recognize, to perceive, to understand)
the [essential] love:
that He laid down His [own] life for us;
and we ought to lay [our] lives down for [those who are our] brothers [in Him].
I am thankful that God doesn’t float me from box to box depending on my behaviour(s); but always keeps me in His ‘daughter’ box.
… help us to do likewise for our husbands.